Parents have the responsibility to protect their children
and prepare them to survive and thrive. And for them to have courage,
cooperate, be responsible, and have respect. For children to have a belonging,
the parents should offer contact freely, teach the children to contribute to
chores, the family or a team. Children also need to learn different stages of
power and protection. For power they should be given responsibility in age appropriate
situations. For protection parents should have the correct amount of
assertiveness and forgiveness to their children.
When parents and children argue or children argue with other
children, parents need to understand who owns the problem. In other words, who
does the issue really bother or affect. Once this is understood the parent can
try to make sure that those who do not own the problem will be more considerate
of the other’s needs, or to make the problem go away for the one who owns it.